Dealing with Infatuation (PT 2)

So, my last post - Dealing with Infatuation (PT 1)... was a little iffy. Though it did get quite a bit of attention (I'm talking about view count), I really wanted to elaborate. I felt as though the first part, I had too much to talk about and very much less words.

I believe that infatuation revolves too much around movie-style romance, and the idea that there is the 'perfect man'.

No.

The 'perfect man' does not exist. See, I can find a guy with floppy brown hair, and washboard abs incredibly attractive, but.. that's simply physical attraction.

Mental adherence to a person is what is key in any relationship. If you're on the same wavelength, then I promise you - you will be right for each other. You can compromise with looks, and let me tell you - if you're looking to be in a relationship for the long-run, physical beauty is one thing that will fade away. This is what sets love and infatuation apart.

Let's put 2 situations side by side, and do a comparison.

1. Guy #1 - Lets call him A.

So, A is pretty good looking. Sweet. You speak to him sometimes. He's incredibly friendly, but not at all flirtatious.

However, he is on your mind. 24/7.

Any attention he gives you, you just drink it in, and misinterpret it for something that is more than friendly.

For e.g.

He tells you 'Be careful on your way home'.

Now, that for him, simply means that you should be careful going home.

For you, that may mean that he wishes he could have accompanied you, or that you should avoid male attention.

This is an example of infatuation.

2. Guy #2 - Let's call him B.

So, B is someone who you're not initially interested in.

He doesn't fit into most of the criterias in your checklist - and isn't conventionally handsome.

But, he understands you. He can read you like an open book, without you having to explain every detail. He connects with you mentally, a way which you find challenging with people you don't know very well.

He makes you laugh. But not a laugh that is just of the mouth, but a laugh which echoes through your chest cavity, and envelopes you in a warm embrace.

A person like this is someone that you can grow to love.

Now don't get me wrong, physical attraction is important - but like I said, physical beauty is something that does not last. A beautiful heart however, will get you far.

I don't know if I've yet covered everything, but maybe future personal experiences can/will make room for a part 3?

Anyways, if you'd like to discuss it further, drop a comment below! & I'll try getting back to you! x